Learning to be alone

Romance. Companionship. The allegedly prevalent themes in all good stories.

Too many people long for constant companionship to chase away the silence of solitude. It is how society has raised us.

We were trained to think that eating lunch alone is somehow bad and that by ourselves we are insufficient. We have been fooled by the mindset of the world around us, all the books, movies and television shows that tell us we will never be enough. There must always be another half, a certain someone.

God forbid you are happy with the family you were born into, you must to have your own in order to be successful.

You can never be seen alone, especially if you are female, because everyone needs a friend for every occasion, even going to the bathroom.

No.

Just no.

You do need people in your life, but you do not need them in every second of your life.

You don’t need someone beside you to in order enjoy the sunshine. You don’t need people in order to enjoy ice cream on a hot day, or find shapes in the clouds. You don’t need a companion to have lunch either–if you are hungry, eat. There are a lot of things in this world that can be enjoyed alone. There are a lot of things in the world that can be better thought through alone, too.

Being alone helps you think; there is no one influencing the way you perceive reality before you can get a grip on it. Imagine people around you and voices in your head as you are trying to figure out what you think and believe. The noise can destroy you if you let it.

Solitude and silence is not the answer to everything, but it is the subtly unheard answer to some things. You would be amazed at how much I have learned about myself and the world around me just by experiencing it alone. Listen to the sounds, see the things you never noticed before, let your mind wander to the neglected, unknown places in the silence and absence of distraction.

Being alone isn’t something to be ashamed of or avoided. It’s actually quite lovely. Don’t be afraid of solitude and start appreciating it, and all the wisdom it brings.

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